What is Sex Coaching?

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person (me) supports and encourages a learner (you) to change their life in certain desired ways, as well as directing them forward purposefully on the path they wish to pursue. I do exactly this, through empowerment and mindfulness, with your sex life. Sex coaching is not awkward or embarrassing. I can tell you: I am very comfortable talking about sex.

Coaching is an interactive process that can be acutely emotional. My role is to provide a calm and nurturing space for you to sort through these emotions. This is sensitive work, and it requires teamwork, along with open and honest communication. I will listen to you without being judgmental. I am open-minded and use a positive approach to coaching. Coaching, goal setting, mindfulness, and a multitude of other techniques will be applied to help you to achieve what your mind and heart are seeking.

What does mindfulness have to do with sex?

Understanding and creating a space of mindfulness is imperative to a vibrant, happy, and fulfilling sex life. Meditation is a great way to cultivate mindfulness. Chat me for some tips on basic meditation techniques. Everyone can meditate! Don’t be intimidated, I promise you can do it. Studies have shown that long-term meditators experience increased cortical gyrification of the brain’s insula. According to one peer-reviewed Dartmouth study, women with more gyrified insula experienced more intense orgasms.

Mindfulness is a necessary skill for all aspects of life, and sex is no different. Once I learned practical techniques for achieving mindfulness, I was able to cut down anxiety and focus my energy on exactly what I chose to focus on. If I am giving someone my time, and allowing them to take my energy, I am going to make sure I’m totally present in that moment. Your heart must be present during sex, or you are not in the correct place or with the correct person for that time. It could just be the timing, but take a good hard look and ensure it is not the person or the place.

Completely experiencing another person, without filters or barriers of any kind, is an experience whose depth and intensity is unmatched in this lifetime. Perfect intimacy matchups lead to the strongest connections, and that leads to better relationships (and as a bonus, whole body orgasms).

It is natural for minds to wander. However, with practice and dedication, you can learn to train your mind to calm itself, and to fully enjoy and appreciate whatever it is you are giving your time and energy to. Doesn’t that sound nice?

Is sex coaching sex therapy?

Sex coaching is not sex therapy. We will visualize and create a plan to work towards achieving the sex life of your dreams. My role is to empower you with certain tried-and-true tools to achieve your specific goals, with a direct approach that includes compassionate accountability.

Do you use touch or sexual techniques in your coaching sessions?

Short answer: No.

Long answer: I do not. Sometimes your session involves sex, but this will be done in private, either by yourself or with a partner.

What makes you qualified to talk about sex other than you love it?

I offer excellent advice. My friends have always confided in me about their sex lives, and I have always found this topic easy to talk about. It’s a major part of life, existence, nature, and being human. It is what makes the world go ‘round, and I believe it solves a ton of problems. Thus, sex coaching is the perfect path for me, and I genuinely enjoy helping couples map out goals and overcome barriers.

The process of working with a sex coach helps to further bond couples (improving their sex life in and of itself), and to strengthen their relationship.

I had an acquaintance tell me one time: All you think about is sex. You are over the top.
My response: I do think about it a lot. What else is there to think about?

Ask people what their daily thoughts truly are, and where their heart lies. The answer? Sex. Thus, this is the topic I love to talk about. And by the way, it is okay to say the word ‘sex’ outloud, I promise. Say it with me: SEX SEX SEX SEX.

Do you have any professional training?

I am certified in Sexology, Love Coaching, and Relationship Coaching. This is a fancy way of saying I can help to enrich your knowledge and build your skill and finesse in the art of love, relationships, romance, intimacy, and human sexuality.

I was trained by Dr. Ava Cadell at Loveology University. I have the training and practical knowledge to help you boost confidence in the bedroom and have the sex life you desire. Lastly, I am excellent at building and maintaining strong and healthy relationships. This is really key to building a better sex life, since everything revolves around the relationship. Click here to learn more.